Maybe it's not mental, it's physical?

Have you ever had an x-ray of your back? Have you had a job lifting heavy things or a job bending constantly? Been to a chiropractor? My husband and I both have pretty severe back issues, from manual labor actually, lifting too much, I pulled weeds and did gardening maintenance for years. Back problems can affect your balance, posture. center of gravity, of course there is the pain- dude it can go down your legs, can make you incontinent to a certain extent. Maybe look into it. Good luck honey. For pain I have good luck with biofreeze and ibuprofen. Oh can give headaches and neck pain, and reactions- huh! You can feel detached because of physical pain.